1. Don’t give up, even if it’s difficult
Believe me, I understand how hard it is not to give up when you're put on a waiting list for the tenth time. In fact, it took me 20 to 30 requests before I finally found a permanent place. That sounds crazy, right? But unfortunately it's the reality, and the most important thing is: don't give up. Every phone call and every email can be the one step that brings you closer to your goal.
2. Accept every initial interview
At first I thought that it would be pointless to go to lots of initial consultations, especially if I didn't get a place afterwards. But looking back, each of these consultations was valuable. It helped me to understand myself better, and in some cases the therapists gave me valuable tips or even recommended other therapists. Every consultation is an opportunity - so take it!
3. Document everything – this can be worth its weight in gold later
One thing I underestimated at the beginning was the importance of documentation. I eventually got into the habit of writing down exactly which therapists I contacted, when I called, and when I received a rejection. This helped me enormously later when, after many rejections, I asked my health insurance company whether they would cover the costs of a private practice. And indeed, it was approved because I could prove that I had tried so many times.
4. Therapie.de is good, but Google can sometimes be better
Therapie.de is a great website for getting an overview - but unfortunately the data is not always up to date. Many therapists who are listed as available there are actually no longer taking on patients. So my tip: use Google and research therapists in your area directly. Sometimes it is the smaller, lesser-known practices that still have capacity.
5. Talk to others – even if it’s uncomfortable
I know how uncomfortable it can be to ask others about their experiences, especially when it comes to something as personal as therapy. But that's exactly what helped me. Other sufferers gave me tips that I would never have found on my own. They told me about therapists who still had places or recommended groups that were really helpful. It's hard, but it can make your search a lot easier.
6. Use crisis consultations or group therapy as a bridge
The wait times are long, we both know that. But in the meantime, there are ways to find support. I've used crisis clinics and even attended group therapy while I waited for my permanent placement. That really helped me not to feel completely alone. It may not be the perfect solution, but it can help you get through the time.
7. Call the Association of Statutory Health Insurance Physicians (KVB)
One thing I hadn't even considered: The Association of Statutory Health Insurance Physicians can tell you over the phone which therapists in your area currently have capacity. That actually helped me find a place after I had exhausted almost all other options. It doesn't cost anything to call them and you have nothing to lose.
8. Seek outpatient treatment early if you are hospitalized
If you are currently being treated as an inpatient, I can only advise you to look for outpatient treatment as soon as possible. I did that too late and then had to go through the waiting period again. If you are already looking for an outpatient solution during your inpatient time, you may be able to continue seamlessly - which is a huge relief.
9. Don’t be discouraged – you are not alone
The most important thing I want to tell you is: don't get discouraged. It's incredibly hard to keep coming across obstacles, but you are not alone on this path. The right help is out there, even if it is sometimes well hidden. Be patient with yourself and keep at it. It's worth it, even if it doesn't feel like it at the moment.
Remember, you are not alone! There are many ways to get help. You deserve the support you need and I hope these tips help you find it.
